There are ample of ways to make people dislike you. In fact, most of them don’t involve much effort. All it takes is one look at your social media activity or in-person introduction to make someone grasp they just don’t want to spend time with you.
These some of the most common social turn-offs online and in person, and how to avoid them. Read on and see which ones you’ve been guilty of.
Sharing too many pictures on Facebook
You might be excited to share snapshots of your honeymoon, your sister’s graduation, and your cat dressed up in a Halloween costume, all within a 24-hour period.
But study shows that posting too many pictures on Facebook can hurt your real-life relationships.
According to David Houghton, Ph.D, “This is because people, other than very close friends and relatives, don’t seem to relate well to those who constantly share photos of themselves”
To be specific, friends dislike it when you’ve got too many pictures of family, and relatives don’t like it when you’ve got too many pictures of friends.
According to Ben Marder, Ph.D., another author on the study, put it: ” Be cautious when sharing and think how it will be perceived by all the others who may see it. Although sharing is a great way to better relationships, it can also damage them.”
Having too many or too few Facebook friends
According to a study, researchers inquired college students to look at fictional Facebook profiles and decide how much they liked the profiles’ owners. The research occured back in 2008, and the students had about 300 friends each.
Based on the result, the “sweet spot” for likeability was about 300 friends. Likeability ratings were lowest when a profile owner had approximately 100 friends, and just as low when they had more than 300 friends.
As for why 300-plus friends could be a turn-off, the research result shows that, “Individuals with too many friends may appear to be focusing too much on Facebook, friending out of desperation rather than popularity.”
You should know that, the researchers admit that if you study a population where the most common number of Facebook friends is 1,000, the sweet spot for likeability could be 1,000.
According to a survey the average number of Facebook friends among adult users was 338 in 2014.
Disclosing something extremely personal early on in a relationship
Generally, people like each other more after they’ve exchanged confidences. In fact, self-disclosure is not only one of the easiest, it is one of the best way to make friends as an adult.
However, according to psychologists, sharing an information too intimate — like, the fact that your brother is having an extramarital affair — while you’re still getting to know someone can make you seem insecure and decrease your likeability.
The best way to go is to get personal without getting too personal. As a research led by Susan Sprecher at Illinois State University suggests, sharing details about just your hobbies and your favourite childhood memories can make you seem warmer and more likeable.
Asking someone questions without talking about yourself at all
According to the same study by Susan Sprecher, an important caveat to the idea that self-disclosure predicts closeness: It has to be mutual. Turns out people like you less if you don’t reciprocate when they disclose something intimate about themselves.
Posting a close-up profile photo
If your Facebook profile features a picture of your face practically smashed up against the camera, please just change it.
Study shows that faces photographed from just 45 centimeters — about 1.5 feet — away are considered less trustworthy, attractive, and competent than faces photographed from 135 centimeters, about 4.5 feet, away.