RELATIONSHIPS: 10 Things Barack And Michelle Obama Taught Us About Love
How much do Barack and Michelle love one another? Let us count the ways!
If there is one thing that is absolutely undeniable about President Barack Obama and First Lady Michelle is their unwavering, undeniable, inspirational love for one another for the past 25+ years! And quite frankly, we can’t get enough!
Having first met in 1989 where the two were one of the few Blacks at Chicago law firm Sidley Austin, the couple (whose first date was a trip to an art institute, followed by a movie date to see Do the Right Thing, and a first kiss outside of an ice cream parlor), instantly fell for each other and it was love at first ‘Spike!’ They would later get married in 1992, and give birth to their daughters Malia Ann (18) and Natasha (15) in the years to follow. And, as we all know, after successfully creating a family of their own, they would later become the face of a nation, serving as the first Black, first family of our nation between 2008 to now!
1. Cute Only Lasts For So Long.
“He was always special, you know? And not special, like, he’s gonna be important, he’s gonna be president. He was special in terms of his honesty, his sincerity, his compassion for other people. Cute’s good. But cute only lasts for so long, and then it’s, Who are you as a person? That’s the advice I would give to women: Don’t look at the bankbook or the title. Look at the heart. Look at the soul. Look at how the guy treats his mother and what he says about women. How he acts with children he doesn’t know. And, more important, how does he treat you?
You should never doubt yourself. You shouldn’t be in a relationship with somebody who doesn’t make you completely happy and make you feel whole. And if you’re in that relationship and you’re dating, then my advice is, don’t get married. Get out of it. And find that person who brings you complete and utter joy with who you are at the moment. — (Michelle Obama in Glamour Magazine, December 2009)
2. Fall In Love With His Character
“When I first met Barack, we started dating, he had everything going for him. All right, ladies, listen to this. This is what I want you to be looking for. Yes, he was handsome–still is. I think so. He was charming, talented, and oh-so smart, truly. But that is not why I married him. What truly made me fall in love with Barack Obama was his character. You hear me? It was his character. It was his decency, his honesty, his compassion and conviction.” — (Michelle Obama speaking at “Morgan State University in Maryland”, September 2012)
3. If you can work through the tough times, the love and respect you have for each other deepens.
“We’ve been married now twenty years, and like every marriage you have your ups and you have your downs, but if you work through the tough times the respect and love that you feel deepens.” — (President Barack Obama on Barbara Walter, December 2012)
4. ‘Netflix and Chill’ is not an appropriate first date.
Our first date, I took her to the Art Museum, at the Art Institute. I was trying to impress her and show her I was a culturally sensitive guy, and it worked. So I’m giving tips to the young men out there… — (President Obama “Dinner With Barack and Michelle”,March 2012)
5. If you have a strong foundation, it will be hard for a job or change in social status to ruin the relationship.
“Our life before moving to Washington was filled with simple joys. Saturdays at soccer games, Sundays at grandma’s house and a date night for Barack and me was either dinner or a movie, because as an exhausted mom, I couldn’t stay awake for both. And the truth is, I loved the life we had built for our girls and I deeply loved the man I had built that life with and I didn’t want that to change if he became president. I loved Barack just the way he was.
You see, even though back then Barack was a senator and a presidential candidate, to me, he was still the guy who’d picked me up for our dates in a car that was so rusted out, I could actually see the pavement going by in a hole in the passenger side door. He was the guy whose proudest possession was a coffee table he’d found in a dumpster, and whose only pair of decent shoes was half a size too small.
“So when people ask me whether being in the White House has changed my husband, I can honestly say that when it comes to his character, and his convictions, and his heart, Barack Obama is still the same man I fell in love with all those years ago.” — (Michelle Obama’s Democratic Nation Convention speech, September 2012)