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3 Relationship Compromises You Should Never Make

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All long-term relationships involve compromise. Merging two lives together, resolving big problems, and dealing with smaller ones such as, what to do on your vacation, which toothpaste to buy, and whether the dishwasher should be loaded this way or that requires negotiations and concessions.

For some of us, the question of whether we’re ‘settling’ or compromising too much is there from the very beginning. For others, it might come later on, after the blissful rush of new love begins to fade and our partner’s faults or shortcomings become more apparent.

Being able to negotiate and find a compromise is often a sign of a healthy relationship. However, some compromises are so significant they should not be made lightly. The following three issues are often associated with relationship problems and dissatisfaction. They by no means spell doom for a relationship but they do indicate there will be rough waters ahead. Here’s what you can do about them.

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1. Hiding key aspects of who we are

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We worry our partner will feel threatened, turned-off, or annoyed by significant aspects of our personality, aspirations, beliefs, activities, or friends so we hide or minimize them. However, by doing so we are in essence cutting off parts of our ‘self’. While we might be able to manage to do so in the short-term, over time, we are likely to pay a price for our psychological health, our relationship satisfaction, or both.

What you can do: Gradually introduce these aspects of yourself by having an ongoing dialogue with your partner about why they are valuable to you and how best the relationship can absorb them.

2. Tolerating disrespect

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One of the biggest predictors of relationship dissatisfaction and longevity is if our partner regards us with contempt (or you them) during arguments or disagreements. The disrespect, hostility, and lack of empathy such moments embody represent a crucial weakness that will impair any couple’s ability to manage stress and conflict productively.

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One of the biggest predictors of relationship dissatisfaction and longevity is if our partner regards us with contempt (or you them) during arguments or disagreements. The disrespect, hostility, and lack of empathy such moments embody represent a crucial weakness that will impair any couple’s ability to manage stress and conflict productively.

What you can do: Talk together about setting ground rules for conflict, improving your conflict resolution skills and making efforts to understand each other’s perspective in order to increase empathy.

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