Being popular doesn’t mean you’ll be happier. New research suggests that for adolescents, having a few close friends is a better indicator of how happy and successful teens will be later in life.
In the study, 160 teens were studied over the course of 10 years, from 15 years old to the time they reached 25. The sample was 58 percent caucasian, 29 percent African American and 8 percent mixed race. Family incomes ranged from $40,000 to $59,999. Each year the teens answered questions about their friendships as well as completed interviews with the research team to determine anxiety, social issues, self-esteem and depression. Close friends of the participants also were interviewed for the study.
Researchers defined close friendships as being supportive with displays of attachment, which makes them more intimate than other types of relationships. To determine whether a friendship was of higher quality, the team spoke to the subjects’ closest friend at 15 years old. Scientists assessed how popular adolescents were by the number of peers who said they would enjoy spending time with the subject as well as nominations from peers.
They found that youth who spent more time cultivating close friendships when they were 15 fared better at 25, experiencing less social anxiety, higher sense of self-worth, and reduced number of depressive symptoms. Teens who were popular in high school actually reported higher levels of anxiety by 25.
Researchers believe that developing tight-knit friendships helps people feel better about themselves because they occur at a time when identity is also forming. These friendships can help teens to expect support and give them a chance to support others too.
Interestingly, it appears that it’s not easy to have close friendships while being popular. While some teens do manage both, overall, there are different personality traits that attract close friendships than large friend groups.