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Ladies; Five Things That Sex Will Never Achieve in Your Relationship

Ladies; Five Things That Sex Will Never Achieve in Your Relationship

Ladies; Five Things That Sex Will Never Achieve in Your Relationship

It’s been said many times by those older, wiser and more experienced but some of us ladies just never hear this important advice in relationship; sex will not earn you love and it will not solve all relationship problems.

Physical intimacy and sexual satisfaction is only a part of romantic relationships; an important one but it just isn’t the ultimate. It makes more meaning and yields more results when many other parts of a relationship are in place. It won’t keep any relationship on its own; not for long any way.

For any female out there who feels she’s done so much in this department but has only met with frustration and disappointment in her love life, this may be a timely reminder.

Here are five things that sex will never achieve for you in your love life:

Friendship and Companionship

Sex will not guarantee you companionship; it might grab you his attention when he wants you but in the long run, people will only make attempts to be companions or have friendship with someone whose company they enjoy outside of physical gratification.

A man will choose his companion based on compatibility, his own desire to be with that person and many other things including her ability to laugh at his jokes. How you guys match in bed will probably feature as a consideration but it can’t really do anything on its own for a man who knows what he wants.

Respect

How much you give it to him or how good you are in bed can hardly get you to be respected by any man. It shouldn’t necessarily diminish your respect but it won’t necessarily earn you any respect.

If you make the mistake of giving yourself to an immature man or one who has a wrong idea of women, it might actually become a source of disrespect.

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Ladies, 5 Things You Shouldn’t Disclose Too Early in a Relationship

Ladies, 5 Things You Shouldn’t Disclose Too Early in a Relationship

Ladies, 5 Things You Shouldn’t Disclose Too Early in a Relationship

Love conquers all; this is true but sometimes, love needs to be given some breathing room and adjustment time to find its conquering feet.

You met somebody, it feels like magic and you honestly believe he’s the one. Ladies, it is possible to get carried away in the early stages of a relationship and reveal things that the other person is not just ready to handle yet.

There are things that may require more time in a relationship before they can be disclosed and discussed, depending on the maturity of your man, the gravity of the issue, the responsibility it requires, among many other factors that may just differ with the parties involved.

As for what qualifies as too early, one can safely say that telling a man you’ve been dating for between a week  and three months, all your life problems can qualify as too early.  But there are issues (and sometimes your instincts tell you) for which you may need more time to unravel.  “Early” in a really serious and committed relationship should not probably go past six months or a year because anything after that might be seen as keeping a secret.

Here are five things you shouldn’t spill too early;

Your Financial Status

Unless, you’re now dating your banker or financial adviser, then ladies don’t be too quick about revealing how much you have or don’t have.

If you’re struggling financially, making this a topic early in your relationship might colour his view about you or make it seem like you’re trying to get him to chip in. The truth is that financial state can indicate a person’s level of stability and wisdom among other things and men consider this too. It is not because they are gold-diggers or materialistic, it is an important part of life.

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So you might want to let him get to know you enough to decide that you are more than your financial state.

If you’re doing well or rich, you need to be cautious; that’s just the fact. Establish trust and discern motives before baring all about your money.

However, you should be careful about deliberately keeping it a secret; it may give an impression that you cannot correct and eventually damage the relationship.

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3 Things Every Father of the Bride Should Do at His Daughter’s Wedding

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3 Things Every Father of the Bride Should Do at His Daughter’s Wedding

It’s not uncommon for the father of the bride to look a little bit lost on the day of his daughter’s wedding. After all, he’s not part of the bridal party helping the bride get ready, and he’s probably not invited to participate in his future son-in-law’s last hours of freedom. But that doesn’t mean the FOB isn’t important! There are plenty of ways dads can make a difference on their daughter’s big day — here are three easy ones.

1. Do everything the bride and MOB don’t have time do

After you make sure your wedding clothes are good to go, ask your daughter and your wife how you can help. Has lunch been ordered for the bridal party yet? Does anyone need to be picked up from the airport last minute? Did the bride forget anything at home? Use the downtime before the ceremony to help tie up any loose ends.

2. Prepare your toast in advance

Going on the assumption that it’s possible you will have a few drinks before the very special toast you’re expected to give the bride and groom at the reception, it’s not a bad idea to prepare your speech in advance. Consider jotting a few key points on a note card.

3. Play host at the end of the night

Even if you didn’t contribute financially to the wedding itself, try to make sure to thank all the guests who attended and say goodbye when they leave. Usually, the bride and groom are still dancing the night away when the older family members head out. Help your newly-married kids and say goodbyes for them so they’re not obligated to give up their last hour of fun.

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Relationships: Guys, Things To Do To Find The Right Girl

Relationships: Guys, Things To Do To Find The Right Girl

Relationships: Guys, Things To Do To Find The Right Girl

How to find the right girl….

Everybody talks about how girls are always searching or waiting for Mr Right but they often forget that a lot of men are longing for that special somebody too.

Finding that special somebody has become a hard thing for some people in this world that we live; some guys have just had one bad experience after the other and they are left wondering if they will ever find that lady that is just perfect for them.

Romantic and relationship let-downs happen to a lot of men through no fault of theirs but there are a chunk of men who are doing the wrong things and expecting best results. Guys, there may be a whole of things you’re doing that are repelling instead of attracting “Miss Right”.

Here are some of the things you may need to stop doing to find girl of your dreams:

Stop Lying

Lying is a bad habit and it’s not a trait that any lovely and sensible girl would want in man that she wants to be in a relationship. So if you have been thinking that lying is dating skill, it is not. It has simply limited your relationship opportunities.

Don’t believe stories that women like to be lied; not the type of ladies that could the kind of love and joy into your life. Making a habit of lying to ladies will only attract the ones who lie too or who are confused.

If you want the right lady in your life, stop lying and start living your truth.

 

Start Listening

You are entitled to your desires about how you want the woman of your dreams to look but if you actually want to find that complete package of in and out beauty you’re looking for, then add some listening to your looking.

There are a lot of beautiful girls out there but not all of them are good for you. If train yourself to take more time to have conversations and listen more, you will find the one that you make a good thing with.

If you leave it all to looks and a good time, then don’t complain when it ends just as it starts. If you want something more, you have to go deeper.

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RELATIONSHIPS: 10 Things Barack And Michelle Obama Taught Us About Love

10 Lessons Barack And Michelle Obama Taught Us About Love

RELATIONSHIPS: 10 Things Barack And Michelle Obama Taught Us About Love

How much do Barack and Michelle love one another? Let us count the ways!

If there is one thing that is absolutely undeniable about President Barack Obama and First Lady Michelle is their unwavering, undeniable, inspirational love for one another for the past 25+ years! And quite frankly, we can’t get enough!

Having first met in 1989 where the two were one of the few Blacks at Chicago law firm Sidley Austin, the couple (whose first date was a trip to an art institute, followed by a movie date to see Do the Right Thing, and a first kiss outside of an ice cream parlor), instantly fell for each other and it was love at first ‘Spike!’ They would later get married in 1992, and give birth to their daughters Malia Ann (18) and Natasha (15) in the years to follow. And, as we all know, after successfully creating a family of their own, they would later become the face of a nation, serving as the first Black, first family of our nation between 2008 to now!

Michelle and President Barack ObamaThe last 8 years have been a whirlwind for the Obamas, but in-between their hectic schedules, the couple still found time to inspire us with their love. Whether it’s a a little PDA between PSA’s, or a full-own interview with the likes of Barbara Walters of Vogue, the Obama’s “love goals” is everything! Check out some loving quotes from favorite love birds through the years, and feel free to fall in love with them all over again!

1. Cute Only Lasts For So Long.

“He was always special, you know? And not special, like, he’s gonna be important, he’s gonna be president. He was special in terms of his honesty, his sincerity, his compassion for other people. Cute’s good. But cute only lasts for so long, and then it’s, Who are you as a person? That’s the advice I would give to women: Don’t look at the bankbook or the title. Look at the heart. Look at the soul. Look at how the guy treats his mother and what he says about women. How he acts with children he doesn’t know. And, more important, how does he treat you?

 

 

You should never doubt yourself. You shouldn’t be in a relationship with somebody who doesn’t make you completely happy and make you feel whole. And if you’re in that relationship and you’re dating, then my advice is, don’t get married. Get out of it. And find that person who brings you complete and utter joy with who you are at the moment. — (Michelle Obama in Glamour Magazine, December 2009)

2. Fall In Love With His Character

“When I first met Barack, we started dating, he had everything going for him. All right, ladies, listen to this. This is what I want you to be looking for. Yes, he was handsome–still is. I think so. He was charming, talented, and oh-so smart, truly. But that is not why I married him. What truly made me fall in love with Barack Obama was his character. You hear me? It was his character. It was his decency, his honesty, his compassion and conviction.” — (Michelle Obama speaking at “Morgan State University in Maryland”, September 2012)

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3. If you can work through the tough times, the love and respect you have for each other deepens. 

“We’ve been married now twenty years, and like every marriage you have your ups and you have your downs, but if you work through the tough times the respect and love that you feel deepens.” — (President Barack Obama on Barbara Walter, December 2012)

4. ‘Netflix and Chill’ is not an appropriate first date.

Our first date, I took her to the Art Museum, at the Art Institute. I was trying to impress her and show her I was a culturally sensitive guy, and it worked. So I’m giving tips to the young men out there… — (President Obama “Dinner With Barack and Michelle”,March 2012)

5. If you have a strong foundation, it will be hard for a job or change in social status to ruin the relationship.

“Our life before moving to Washington was filled with simple joys. Saturdays at soccer games, Sundays at grandma’s house and a date night for Barack and me was either dinner or a movie, because as an exhausted mom, I couldn’t stay awake for both. And the truth is, I loved the life we had built for our girls and I deeply loved the man I had built that life with and I didn’t want that to change if he became president. I loved Barack just the way he was.

You see, even though back then Barack was a senator and a presidential candidate, to me, he was still the guy who’d picked me up for our dates in a car that was so rusted out, I could actually see the pavement going by in a hole in the passenger side door. He was the guy whose proudest possession was a coffee table he’d found in a dumpster, and whose only pair of decent shoes was half a size too small.

“So when people ask me whether being in the White House has changed my husband, I can honestly say that when it comes to his character, and his convictions, and his heart, Barack Obama is still the same man I fell in love with all those years ago.” — (Michelle Obama’s Democratic Nation Convention speech, September 2012)

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Sorry! 9 Signs Your Husband Is NOT Romantic

Sorry! 9 Signs Your Husband Is NOT Romantic

Sorry! 9 Signs Your Husband Is NOT Romantic

Being romantic is more that opening the door of a car, getting you bunch of roses or flirting in public. There are some little things that might portray huge romance that you can only find in romantic husbands.

Your husband might buy you roses always and flirt with you in public but don’t be disappointed if he forgets your wedding anniversary, inadvertently compliments his female friend or does something really unromantic.

The man you thought you had pretty much known before you married emerges differently with time. Just give him signals to get him into the mood. What do you get? He only throws it back to you like the most unromantic man. Then there’s more:

Forgetting your birthday

Your birthday is one of the most important days to you and expects your husband to treat it equally important. Most men can forget their wife’s birthday. It is one of the most unpardonable things to do. Forgetting your birthday makes you think you matter the least. Women can take such issues pretty seriously. Something as simple as marking your birthday on the calendar or emailers can help him remember it well. An expensive gift is not always necessary, but to hear him greet you on your special day can make a lot of difference.

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Relationships: 3 Things You Can Do to Avoid Disappointment

Relationships: 3 Things You Can Do to Avoid Disappointment

Relationships: 3 Things You Can Do to Avoid Disappointment

Avoiding disappointment……

At one point or the other in the life of everyone on the face of the earth, they will face disappointments. There will be many times when we don’t get what we want or we’ll be let down by those we trust; these kinds of disappointments are an inevitable part of life. But then, there are also disappointments in our lives that we could avoid if we start out with the right attitude or actions.

Here are three things that can help to avoid unnecessary disappointments:

Ask and Clarify

Many times, disappointments arise from a failure to ask questions or ask the right questions. In the face of promises or in making requests, you need to do the due diligence of asking questions in understanding exactly what is being offered or what is possible.

Many disappointments and let-downs are not because people actually failed us but because our expectations were based on assumptions. When we clarify and get details about what we want, we get a clear picture of available options and possibilities. This way we can manage our expectations properly and avoid making assumptions or accepting unsubstantiated claims that will end up being frustrated.

It is important to get clarification because sometimes people may not be totally honest with us for a long list of reasons; sometimes they don’t want to let us down, sometimes they are being deceitful and some other times, they simply didn’t tell because we didn’t ask.

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Co-parenting: 5 Tips for Raising Well-adjusted Kids After Divorce

Co-parenting: 5 Tips for Raising Well-adjusted Kids After Divorce

Co-parenting: 5 Tips for Raising Well-adjusted Kids After Divorce

Co-parenting tips

Divorce is hard and the truth is that most times, married couples never really part ways on the best note. A lot of disappointment, pain, anger and resentment may accompany a divorce and linger long after a couple have parted ways.

This kind of baggage becomes tougher to navigate where there are children involved and both parties have to continue their parenting duties to their children.

Divorced parents may need to put in some extra effort to help their children move through their growing years of childhood to adulthood in the most balanced way possible. They need to show a lot of responsibility and maturity to achieve this

Here are five tips to help divorced parents who have the task of co-parenting their children raise balanced and well-adjusted children:

1. Find common grounds and agree on important basics

One of the most common mistakes among divorced couples involved in co-parenting is to abandon discussing common rules that both parties can agree on in guiding and raising their children. Children need stability and consistency of values to enjoy balance;  co-parents must make the effort to set aside all differences and barriers to conversation and sit down to talk about basic principles that the children will experience in both their households and their relationship with them.

Such agreements go a long way to prevent children from taking advantage of loopholes and experiencing inconsistencies that may affect or handicap that functioning or relationships in adult life.

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6 Signs You are in Rebound Relationship

6 Signs You are in Rebound Relationship

6 Signs You are in Rebound Relationship

Rebound relationships

We humans possess great capacity for self-deceit; we can tell ourselves we’re fine when we are not, we can convince ourselves we’re happy when we’re not, see mountainous problems even when we have it good and are making enviable progress. Sometimes, we are just so confused that we get mixed up in lie and we are convinced of it. This is how some of us are with rebound relationships.

You just had a major break up; you’re supposed to be heartbroken and disappointed and despite the fact that those who really know you say that this is the case, you deny it will your strength, promising that you’re over the whole episode.  Before anyone knows it, you’re claiming to have to have found the love of your life in some guy or girl that you barely even know. Everybody’s wondering why you seem to be in such a rush but you really don’t seem to think so.

The hallmark of most rebound relationships is rushing into an intense relationship soon after emerging from serious one or dating (serially) as a way of escaping the pain of heartbreak. It might be such a bad if those heading into rebound relationships were aware of it and could therefore manage their expectations and the promises they make. Many who went into new relationships with such an awareness were able table what they could realistically offer  and state their expectations with honesty that saved further pain.

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Wives, How to Nurture a Good Relationship with Your Mother-in-law

Wives, How to Nurture a Good Relationship with Your Mother-in-law

Wives, How to Nurture a Good Relationship with Your Mother-in-law

Getting Along with your mother-in-law

When we get married, the family members of our spouse become a part of our lives and in fact they ought to become a part of our family (in the long run). But everyone who lives in the real world knows that this is hardly ever the case. There seem to be more people who don’t get along with their in-laws then those who do. But there is a special prevalence of bad blood and feud between wives and their daughter-in-laws.

Nobody can really say why but many relationships between wives and mothers-in-law are fraught with suspicion, competition, defensiveness and fear among many things. The wife sees a deeper and sinister motive to virtually everything that is said or done and so it is on the side of the mother-in-law. While in many instances, these feelings are unfounded, the truth of the matter is that these feelings turn out to be true in many more cases.

In spite of the rocky and tense relationship that many wives have with their mothers-in-law, most of them will have to deal and relate with each other for many years. Although a lot of ladies wish that their mothers-in-law are dead before they meet and marry their husbands, this is hardly ever the case. Even when a man’s biological mother is late, he usually has some woman (or women) whose place in his life is like that of a mother.

The best thing for every wise woman looking to enjoy her marriage is to plan to get along with her mother-in-law as best as she can, instead of heading into battles that may not be necessary.

Here are foundational tips that will help wives to nurture a cordial relationship with their mothers-in-law:

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